Living in the World

[mamculuna]

Bill is home, having flown successfully through the hurricane remnants. And I'm happy, double happy.

My friend L's baby's name is Shuang Fei (see icon) means double wings or double flying. What a great name--but L wants to name her, and call her, after L's American family, which I understand. So now the big decision. I suspect Fei, wing or flying, is the part that will survive as a middle name--not one that is used much.

And I'm remembering again to let things go as they will, not to put in my vote for Fei as main name. So the reading for today--Llimitation--is clear again. To be a friend means honoring the boundaries your friend sets (or knowing where they are so she doesn't have to set them):

60 Chieh: Limitation

Kan, the abysmal, water
Tui, the joyous, lake.

A lake occupies a limited space. When more water comes into it, it overflows. Therefore limits must be set for the water. The image shows water below and water above, with the firmament between them as a limit.

The Chinese word for limitation really denotes the joints that divide a bamboo stalk. In relation to ordinary life it means the thrift that sets fixed limits on expenditures. In relation to the moral sphere it means the fixed limits that the superior man sets on his actions - the limits of loyalty and disinterestedness

Comments

[altaego.livejournal.com]

Many Chinese-Americans have a "Western" name and a Chinese name. So Shuang Fei can still be her Chinese name.

I don't mean to be negative, but one impression I had in my trip to China this summer was the gang-like groups of young men and how they might turn violent for the lack of women. I thought that they might become especially angry with the US for taking young girls and making them liberated Americans, not interested in what the Chinese guys have to offer.

[an-old-one.livejournal.com]

OMG, what an absolutely gorgeous baby girl! I can understand completely why you wish she could keep Shuang Fei as her given name, it sounds so pretty. Even Fei, because there are so few girls these days called Faye anymore, and it's a lovely name.

The I Ching seems to be responding to events in your life on a daily basis!

;o)

[wombatina.livejournal.com]

ah. it's so difficult to let others lead their lives and make decisions when WE know all the answers. nice throw in the i ching to remind us of letting people run their own lives.

[mamculuna.livejournal.com]

And even harder, but more important, when you're crossing generations. But I will say it's easier to keep hands off a friend I met as an adult than it is my birth children. But I'm determined to do it! People over 21 at least deserve to mess up on their own and not have others messing up for them!