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What is the silliest part of your music collection? I Hate Walmart, by Dave Lippman.
What film is guaranteed to make you cry? Stand by Me (old 80’s movie)
If you could have plastic surgery, what would you have done? Can I get the whole thing?
What is the little physical habit that gives away your insecure moment? I talk too fast and too much.
Do you have too many love interests? Not anymore…
Do you know anyone famous? I lived next door to some famous musicians in the 60’s (Richie Havens, the drummer for Country Joe and the Fish—see, you never heard of them). I went out with the brother of Kary Mullis (Nobel in Physics). I guess I should just say no, huh?
Spontaneous or planned? Spontaneous by nature, planned by experience.
What do you miss most about being a kid? The future ahead of me.
Are you happy with your given name? No! I should have been Luna, which was my grandmother’s name, but she hated it and preferred her nickname “Nan.” So now I’m Nancy. It’s okay, just way too common in my generation, and names that end with “y” always seem like cute little girls to me.
What was the last song you were listening to? Soundtrack on Joan of Arcadia.
Have you ever been in love? Yes. I have loved and been loved. Also felt and been the object of desire, companionship, jealousy, compassion, trust, but hmm. “In love.” Not sure what that means.
Do you talk a lot? Sometimes. If I’m happy, nervous, just seeing someone I haven’t seen for a long time, etc. Other times I can be very quiet.
Do you like yourself and believe in yourself? Strangely enough, I do now. I didn’t always. Now I may believe in myself too much—may need a reality check!
Do transient, homeless, or starving people sometimes annoy you? My insecurity about the right way to respond to them bothers me. I feel that I really should share if I have more than other people, yet I know some of them are just scamming, and I can’t tell the difference. And then there’s the argument that even handouts to the truly needy just perpetuate a bad system. Wish I knew what was the right thing to do. At least one case where it’s simpler to be Muslim. Bottom line for me, though: there are enough resources in the world to provide for everyone. It’s a screwed up system that creates the poor.
Do you consider yourself to be a nice person? Sort of, but I have some petty mean impulses, and my laziness can be a problem for other people. Working on this!
Do you tell your friends about your sex life? Not that interesting any more. I used to , when I had tales to tell. Being happily married isn’t very dramatic.
What's the one language you want to learn? Only one?? Spanish and Mandarin are both things I work at from time to time, along with the language for wherever I’m going next. Also have plans for Tibetan (which I currently chant without knowing what I’m saying half the time).
What do you order at a bar? Winter: really good scotch, straight up—and I like the peaty kinds like Laphroaig. Summer: rum (Mount Gay is good) and tonic with lime over ice. Or wine (don’t get me started). Lately, weird liqueur and vodka martinis, though usually they’re too sweet—back to vermouth passed over the glass, I guess.
What do you cook the best? Something I’ve only cooked once before. The first time I make mistakes because I can’t tell where I’m headed, and after many times I get bored and don’t pay attention to the details. That’s true of teaching courses, too. Next thing I’ll cook is an African dish for a party: Ndole sauce over fufu with pili-pili sauce. Turns out I can find most of the ingredients.
Favorite writing instrument? Desktop PC computer, but I’m starting an Apple flirtation, so this could change.
Would you ever go out dressed like the opposite sex? Yes. In fact, pants and tee and running shoes…but probably not a tie and dress shirt.
What kind of books do you like to read? Mystery (Ruth Rendell!), Sci-fi/Fantasy (Vernor Vinge! Neil Gaiman!), any good writing.
What's one thing you're a sore loser at? Office politics--but thank god, that's no longer part of my life. I don’t mind losing real games--I have a hard time taking that kind of competition seriously. I always play scrabble with my sister and she always wins, but it’s still fun. I used to be a really sore loser at love, though.
If you don't like a person, how do you show it? Avoid them. Try not to say snippy things, but sometimes do anyway. If they really do damage, I get even—much later, if necessary. I don’t like this aspect of myself.
What kind of first impression do you think you give to people? A middle-aged lady, not so well dressed. But friendly and open.
What's one thing you like to do alone? Read.
When's the last time you cried? I can’t remember. I tend to wall off pain, not letting myself feel it, and then do something bad instead. For example, when my 17 year old cat died, I didn’t cry. But later that day I fell and cut my foot. I think I’d prefer to cry, but I just sort of developed this pseudo-self protection, and I can’t get rid of it.
Do you think you're cute? No. I can see myself as attractive in certain ways, but cute is not one of them.
Were you named after anyone? Well, see tale about my grandmother above. Also, my middle name is Caroline. That’s a multigeneration name in my family—so I was named for my mother, great aunt, great-great grandmother, etc.
Who are you more like - your mother or your father? My father’s openess, enjoyment of life, tendency to wander, ability to love. My mother’s ambition and ability to lead, sometimes.
What is your favorite lunch meat? Canned albacore tuna with chipotle mayo on bran crackers.
Any bad habits? See that post about bar drinks :o) but right now trying to lose all that Italy weight so not endulging. And sloth—very big on sloth.
What's in your CD player right now? Probably Ma Vlast—my husband celebrating his Czech heritage again.
How do you release anger? Unfortunately I speak firmly and quickly with lots of force if it’s someone with whom I can communicate. If not, I do something physical. If it’s a real injustice to me or someone else, I quietly wait my time and get *really* even—and I’ve been successful at this. I’ve been trying to find better ways of dealing with anger—recently read Working with Anger by Thubten Chodron, which is helpful.
Where are your second homes? Chicago, Pawley’s Island (SC beach). Also my sons live in San Francisco and Oakland, so I go there when I can.
Do you trust others easily? Yes. Except for politicians, etc. I am way too trusting.
What class in school did you think was totally useless? PE! Volleyball in ugly blue bloomers?
Do you think that you are strong? Yes, emotionally and psychologically. Very strong.
Don’t mess with me. Physically, not strong enough. I’m forever lifting weights but I *still* can’t do a yoga pushup.
What's your favorite ice cream flavor? Dulce de Leche--Hagen Daaz (swoons)
How many people have a crush on you right now? None, I imagine—haven’t done the meme.
What was the last thing you ate? Oatmeal with blueberries, sweet chai.
If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Hunter green.
How is the weather right now? It’s early, so it’s still in the 60’s and the sun’s just breaking through. It’s going to be a great day to ride my new used bike.
What do you wear to bed? Summer: nothing. Winter: flannel nightshirt.
What was your favorite toy as a child? Books and my bicycle—but I liked dolls (grownup, not baby—Barbie was before my time, but I did have one you could put makeup on, and two for who my mother made wonderful, amazing wardrobes, furcoats, spangled evening dresses! It’s occurred to me that writing novels is a lot like playing with dolls). Also, a friend and I would make elaborate sand palaces for snails or caterpillars.
What is the silliest part of your music collection? I Hate Walmart, by Dave Lippman.
What film is guaranteed to make you cry? Stand by Me (old 80’s movie)
If you could have plastic surgery, what would you have done? Can I get the whole thing?
What is the little physical habit that gives away your insecure moment? I talk too fast and too much.
Do you have too many love interests? Not anymore…
Do you know anyone famous? I lived next door to some famous musicians in the 60’s (Richie Havens, the drummer for Country Joe and the Fish—see, you never heard of them). I went out with the brother of Kary Mullis (Nobel in Physics). I guess I should just say no, huh?
Spontaneous or planned? Spontaneous by nature, planned by experience.
What do you miss most about being a kid? The future ahead of me.
Are you happy with your given name? No! I should have been Luna, which was my grandmother’s name, but she hated it and preferred her nickname “Nan.” So now I’m Nancy. It’s okay, just way too common in my generation, and names that end with “y” always seem like cute little girls to me.
What was the last song you were listening to? Soundtrack on Joan of Arcadia.
Have you ever been in love? Yes. I have loved and been loved. Also felt and been the object of desire, companionship, jealousy, compassion, trust, but hmm. “In love.” Not sure what that means.
Do you talk a lot? Sometimes. If I’m happy, nervous, just seeing someone I haven’t seen for a long time, etc. Other times I can be very quiet.
Do you like yourself and believe in yourself? Strangely enough, I do now. I didn’t always. Now I may believe in myself too much—may need a reality check!
Do transient, homeless, or starving people sometimes annoy you? My insecurity about the right way to respond to them bothers me. I feel that I really should share if I have more than other people, yet I know some of them are just scamming, and I can’t tell the difference. And then there’s the argument that even handouts to the truly needy just perpetuate a bad system. Wish I knew what was the right thing to do. At least one case where it’s simpler to be Muslim. Bottom line for me, though: there are enough resources in the world to provide for everyone. It’s a screwed up system that creates the poor.
Do you consider yourself to be a nice person? Sort of, but I have some petty mean impulses, and my laziness can be a problem for other people. Working on this!
Do you tell your friends about your sex life? Not that interesting any more. I used to , when I had tales to tell. Being happily married isn’t very dramatic.
What's the one language you want to learn? Only one?? Spanish and Mandarin are both things I work at from time to time, along with the language for wherever I’m going next. Also have plans for Tibetan (which I currently chant without knowing what I’m saying half the time).
What do you order at a bar? Winter: really good scotch, straight up—and I like the peaty kinds like Laphroaig. Summer: rum (Mount Gay is good) and tonic with lime over ice. Or wine (don’t get me started). Lately, weird liqueur and vodka martinis, though usually they’re too sweet—back to vermouth passed over the glass, I guess.
What do you cook the best? Something I’ve only cooked once before. The first time I make mistakes because I can’t tell where I’m headed, and after many times I get bored and don’t pay attention to the details. That’s true of teaching courses, too. Next thing I’ll cook is an African dish for a party: Ndole sauce over fufu with pili-pili sauce. Turns out I can find most of the ingredients.
Favorite writing instrument? Desktop PC computer, but I’m starting an Apple flirtation, so this could change.
Would you ever go out dressed like the opposite sex? Yes. In fact, pants and tee and running shoes…but probably not a tie and dress shirt.
What kind of books do you like to read? Mystery (Ruth Rendell!), Sci-fi/Fantasy (Vernor Vinge! Neil Gaiman!), any good writing.
What's one thing you're a sore loser at? Office politics--but thank god, that's no longer part of my life. I don’t mind losing real games--I have a hard time taking that kind of competition seriously. I always play scrabble with my sister and she always wins, but it’s still fun. I used to be a really sore loser at love, though.
If you don't like a person, how do you show it? Avoid them. Try not to say snippy things, but sometimes do anyway. If they really do damage, I get even—much later, if necessary. I don’t like this aspect of myself.
What kind of first impression do you think you give to people? A middle-aged lady, not so well dressed. But friendly and open.
What's one thing you like to do alone? Read.
When's the last time you cried? I can’t remember. I tend to wall off pain, not letting myself feel it, and then do something bad instead. For example, when my 17 year old cat died, I didn’t cry. But later that day I fell and cut my foot. I think I’d prefer to cry, but I just sort of developed this pseudo-self protection, and I can’t get rid of it.
Do you think you're cute? No. I can see myself as attractive in certain ways, but cute is not one of them.
Were you named after anyone? Well, see tale about my grandmother above. Also, my middle name is Caroline. That’s a multigeneration name in my family—so I was named for my mother, great aunt, great-great grandmother, etc.
Who are you more like - your mother or your father? My father’s openess, enjoyment of life, tendency to wander, ability to love. My mother’s ambition and ability to lead, sometimes.
What is your favorite lunch meat? Canned albacore tuna with chipotle mayo on bran crackers.
Any bad habits? See that post about bar drinks :o) but right now trying to lose all that Italy weight so not endulging. And sloth—very big on sloth.
What's in your CD player right now? Probably Ma Vlast—my husband celebrating his Czech heritage again.
How do you release anger? Unfortunately I speak firmly and quickly with lots of force if it’s someone with whom I can communicate. If not, I do something physical. If it’s a real injustice to me or someone else, I quietly wait my time and get *really* even—and I’ve been successful at this. I’ve been trying to find better ways of dealing with anger—recently read Working with Anger by Thubten Chodron, which is helpful.
Where are your second homes? Chicago, Pawley’s Island (SC beach). Also my sons live in San Francisco and Oakland, so I go there when I can.
Do you trust others easily? Yes. Except for politicians, etc. I am way too trusting.
What class in school did you think was totally useless? PE! Volleyball in ugly blue bloomers?
Do you think that you are strong? Yes, emotionally and psychologically. Very strong.
Don’t mess with me. Physically, not strong enough. I’m forever lifting weights but I *still* can’t do a yoga pushup.
What's your favorite ice cream flavor? Dulce de Leche--Hagen Daaz (swoons)
How many people have a crush on you right now? None, I imagine—haven’t done the meme.
What was the last thing you ate? Oatmeal with blueberries, sweet chai.
If you were a crayon, what color would you be? Hunter green.
How is the weather right now? It’s early, so it’s still in the 60’s and the sun’s just breaking through. It’s going to be a great day to ride my new used bike.
What do you wear to bed? Summer: nothing. Winter: flannel nightshirt.
What was your favorite toy as a child? Books and my bicycle—but I liked dolls (grownup, not baby—Barbie was before my time, but I did have one you could put makeup on, and two for who my mother made wonderful, amazing wardrobes, furcoats, spangled evening dresses! It’s occurred to me that writing novels is a lot like playing with dolls). Also, a friend and I would make elaborate sand palaces for snails or caterpillars.
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